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01 January 2010 @ 02:45 pm
healthy coping mechanisms  
Frustration and disappointment are just a part of life. I was curious how people deal with them when they happen? I find that I go through a phase of being obessed with fixing the situation or making it better, which usually just ends up in more frustration and disappointment. (I'm not talking about just making a few tries, but just thinking about nothing else and not being able to move on.) Then I find myself craving an indulgance, either through food or luxuary, neither of which is terribly healthly. Does anyone have any healthy coping strategies that I might try?
Camilla Foxcfox on January 1st, 2010 08:18 pm (UTC)
More specific than general frustration, but I find that boxing up an unfinished project, along with all its parts, and a written list of stuff like what the colors/brands of stuff were, will allow me to put it aside. Sometimes being specific about why it's stalled (even if it's "I don't want to do such and such") has an effect like writing a to-do list - the next steps become more obvious and easier to break down.

Can't productively be applied to interpersonal frustrations, of course, except that I do in fact clean things when angry. There's nothing like going to bed with a spotless kitchen, and a snarky written note taped to each container of ramen and iced tea...
chenoamegchenoameg on January 1st, 2010 08:36 pm (UTC)
I try to give myself time to be angry and upset that things aren't going the way I want them to. I call it grieving or humoring my inner three year old depending on my mood.
Pipamama_pipa on January 2nd, 2010 12:22 am (UTC)
Healthy Coping Strategies... I got nothing. it sounds like you cope more rationally than i do. :)

sauergeeksauergeek on January 4th, 2010 05:16 am (UTC)
One healthy one I've used for some time: write down the stuff that's running through my head. This generally makes my head quieter, so I can do useful things, such as sleep.

One healthy one I've started using recently: talk to friends about what's frustrating me.

Unfortunately, my favorite coping mechanism still seems to involve alcohol. Not so healthy, that one.