I used to think that it was by working hard and being a person with integrity, but now I'm starting to think it's more like charisma. It's a combination of what you do, what you ask for and what you are born with. Or is respect one of those weird social lies that no one really has it, just passing moments of recognition at almost random times?
I know the world isn't fair, and I used to try to fight unfairness when I saw it and be as fair as I could be, but now I'm starting to think I just need to accept that there are things that I can never have in our society, just because of a mix of physically who I am and mentally having some wrong ideas for just too long.
I'm in the process of trying to fix some of the fallacies of my belief system about the world. One of the hardest is retraining the things I've been programmed to want.